Monday, March 25, 2019

Killeen Texas! The Greatest Place Ever!

Did I mention that I hated Fort Valley?  Not that Fort Valley was a bad place but I never fit in.  I did not have a lot of friends growing up.  I was light skin with a cleft chin and my middle name was Lopez, so I was always asked if I was Mexican.  This was a small town in the south, so everyone was either black or white.  I was too light skin for some people and too dark for the other people.  I did not have birthday parties or sleepovers.  The only sport that my Gram would allow me to play until I got to Jr. High was baseball.  I was sheltered and a frankly I was a cry baby all through elementary school.   I was starting 6th grade which in Fort Valley was a part of Jr. High School.  This was a rough year for your boy!  My first day I remember thinking damn these some big ass kids.  I swear that entire 8th grade class was all on steroids.  I am talking about the girls too.  I was this quiet awkward kid trying to be cool, but I had no swagger at all.

Gram would not let me play football but let me join the band.  I was not earning any cool points playing the snare drum in the band.  I was tall and liked basketball so there was my opportunity to be a part of the cool kids.  I tried out for the basketball team and after running what seemed to be a thousand sprints for Coach Hughley, I made the team.  I was one of three 6th graders to make the basketball team.  I forgot to mention that I hated all the 8th graders?  They made my basketball experience the worse.  I was 4th string and I did not score a point the entire season.  I was proud that I did not quit.  I was happy to be a part of a team and I knew I would get better one day.

During that year my Dad moved to Fort Hood in Killeen Texas.  He invited me to come out and spend the summer with him in Killeen.  WHAT?!?  Leave Fort Valley for the summer?!! Hell Yeah…I’m ready to go now!  Summer 1992 comes around and I am about to fly in an airplane.  That may not sound like a big deal in 2019 but the only person I knew at that time who had ever flown anywhere was my Dad.  This was my first time outside the state of Georgia.  Hell, I rarely went outside of the city limits of Fort Valley, so my view of the world was microscopic.

As we drove from the airport in Austin my Dad was trying to prepare me for what I was about to experience.  We pulled up to a stop light and in the car next to me was what I assumed to be an interracial couple.  I was astonished!  Dad laughed because he could see the confusion on my face.  I am not saying that Fort Valley was segregated but everyone knew their place.  If you know anything about Killeen Texas, you would know that no one would ever claim that is the “Greatest Place Ever”!  To a 12-year-old kid from Fort Valley Killeen was the better than Disney World! ***Probably because I had never been to Disney World.  Also, let me remind you that I just had the WORST school year of my young life.  No girls wrote me letters.  I was 4th string on the basketball team.  I was a nobody with no drip, swag, or sauce (whatever they call it now).  The 6th grade was a complete wash for me.

My Dad and Stepmother both worked so they could not leave me in the house all day.  The next day my Dad tells me that he is dropping me off at the Boys & Girls Club.  First of all…what the hell is a Boys & Girls Club?  On the drive to the Boys & Girls Club I felt like I was actually losing my mind.  I am thinking to myself come on Dad you know I’m shy as fuck and you are going to drop me off at some random place where I don’t know anyone???

To be continued...

Standing In My Greatness "Lessons from a Lost Son & Failed Husband"

Thursday, March 29, 2018

I Got Into A Fight!!!

Can you believe the first quarter of 2018 is almost over?!  One of my goals for 2018 was to get back into great physical shape.  I really become comfortable with my "Dad body" with my pooch belly and not thinking about exercise.  That was until 7 months ago when I walked into Team Octopus Boxing gym and realized that I still had my ultracompetitive spirit. Since that time I have committed to the discipline of boxing and the results are great.  I have lost 25 pounds, body fat percentage has dropped tremendously, and I feel great.

This week I faced my biggest challenge at Team Octopus!!!  I actually stepped into the ring to spar and IT WAS SO MUCH FUN!  I must admit I was very nervous and anxious.  It wasn't until I actually got hit that the nerves calmed down.  It's funny how getting hit in the face will force you to use the skills you have learned. I wanted to share my experience in hopes that it will inspire you to take on a new challenge in 2018!

Check out the footage of my sparring session below! Yes I know...Keep my right hand up lol

Thursday, January 4, 2018

Are You Slightly Arrogant?

“Arrogant” is one of the few labels that was used to describe me over the last 37 years and 8 months.  I never thought of myself as arrogant, conceited, or cocky even though most people would tell you I was.  Truth be told; growing up I never had much of a high self esteem until I realized that what other people thought of me did not matter. At that point I began to focus on my dreams and goals then life began to open up for me.  For the last two years I have constantly reminded myself and anyone connected to me to “Lets Be Great Today #1Down”! In 2018 it’s time to accept the fact that you are great and GREATNESS is YOU! To be able to accept the fact that You Are Greatness you will have to accept the fact that you are Slightly Arrogant! I dare you to Stand In Your Greatness for all of 2018!

Muhammad Ali was famously quoted saying “I said I was the Greatest even before I knew I was”! That’s the mentality we need to embrace.

Quick Lesson:
Your MENTALITY creates your reality
Me = YOU
Men = People Closest to You
Mental = Personal Development
Tality = The Great Reality of Your Life

"Standing In My Greatness" is the Mentality that we need to have going into 2018!!! No more wishing, hoping, and only praying.  It’s time to put some work behind these prayers… “Faith without works is dead”.  Whatever your goals are for 2018; I hope that you will have the sheer unmitigated ARROGANCE to know that you will get it done.
I do want to challenge each of you to three things in 2018.

1.       Save a minimum of 10% of your gross yearly salary. I’ve attached two different 52 week money challenges that can assist.
2.       Get a minimum of 2 new stamps in your passport.  It’s time to get a passport if you do not have one.
3.       Create a new stream of income using your talents and gifts.  Meaning…Do not go out and get a part time job.  We need to come up with a way to create income using our God giving talents and abilities. Not trade our time for a set amount of money.

Lastly we have to upgrade our conversation! I came across a fantastic video produced by UNINTERRUPTED featuring LeBron James, Draymond Green, 2 Chainz, Jesse Williams, Paul Rivera, Charles Oakley, Randy Mims, Rich Paul, Maverick Carter, and Steve Stoute.  I want to encourage you to watch this video.  Honestly I cannot stop watching it.  It is great to see a group of super successful black men speak with expertise about the challenges of their chosen industries but also dropping golden nuggets on success.  I want to encourage you to watch the video below.  I promise that you will appreciate their conversation.

As 2017 comes to an end and we step into 2018 I want you to remember in order for things to change we must first change! May you 2018 be prosperous and filled with the blessings that you righteously deserve.


Tabious L. Carter
Standing In My Greatness #SlightlyArrogant

$1,500 52 Week Challenge (click link to download)

$5,000 52 Week Challenge (click link to download)

Sunday, February 12, 2017

2017 Testimony

I normally don't post long statuses but someone may need my testimony. In 2016 Life punched me in the face and asked me "Do you really want to be Great or is that simply a cliche phrase you use on social media?". In 2016 I lost everything I valued including my job with a company I've worked for the last 10 years. I think about speaking at Valdosta State University hoping to motivate young men to chase their dreams a week after I had been laid off from my job. I remember standing on stage looking at the audience thinking who am I to tell these young men anything about success. Driving home I kept telling myself I will completely change my life in a year. I was not going to be defeated! I will not be a hypocrite! I can't motivate and inspire people to change their life while mine is in complete shambles. The last 5 months have been an incredible challenge and serious mental battle. My faith was tested daily and I had to constantly remind myself to Keep Fighting Tabious.

In November I received an email on LinkedIn from the President of a company within the medical industry asking would I be interested in a position they had. Of course I was interested and after two rounds of interviews I was asked to give a presentation of the company to the CEO, President, and VP of Sales! Some people believe in luck but luck is simply when preparation meets opportunity. I was prepared! All of the speeches, presentations, and videos I've done finally led to this opportunity to change my life. I was given a chance to use my gift!

Side note: I want you to remember that if you do not face the devil on your journey to success then you might be walking with him. The day of my presentation I was nervous and filled with anxiety. I only slept 3 hours the night before because I was up all night practicing. On my way to the office my car turned off on me TWICE while I was driving. In my mind nothing was going to stop me from getting that job. I prayed for traveling mercies and kept it moving. That day I gave the best speech/ presentation I had ever given. I did all I could do and left the rest in God's hands. I knew I had that job! You couldn't pay me to believe I did not get that job. A month went by and I never heard back from the VP of Sales. I didn't get the job. WOW! I was beyond disappointed. I did everything right and still did not get what I believed was mine!

Frustrated and a damn near depressed I kept fighting. I kept telling myself something better is coming. My persistence paid off because this past Friday I was offered another job with a different company with a SUBSTANTIAL increase in pay from my previous job.

I know it can be hard but we have to learn to trust God's plan and process even when we don't understand what's going on. There are times when God's destruction is needed to be able to build a solid foundation for the life you are destined to live. There will be pain and tears on your journey to discovering your gift and finding your greatness. There will be times when you want to give up. Please DO NOT give up. No matter who leaves you. No matter who walks away. No matter who doesn't believe in you. No matter what happens; never give up fighting for your gift and the life of your dreams!

2017 "The Year of Renewed Purpose"

Lets Be Great Today! #1Down

Sunday, October 16, 2016

P.O.W.E.R. 2016

I had the honor and privilege to speak at the Lambda Phi Chapter of Kappa Alpha Psi CLASS Undergraduate Leadership conference at my alma mater Valdosta State University. It was a great opportunity to speak with these gentlemen and I hope I was able to leave them with some knowledgeable & inspiration. Please take a few minutes to check out my speech titled P.O.W.E.R. If you got a message from it please like & share. Thank you!

Lets be Great Today! #1Down
P.S. The video correctly flips after 1 minute.

Thursday, June 9, 2016

Make America Love Again

LETS MAKE AMERICA LOVE AGAIN!!!  Pretty simple concept right lol?  Today I am releasing my second run of caps affectionately themed "American Dream".  I hope you like them enough to support the Make America Love Again movement. 

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You like my sales pitch? HaHa!

Wednesday, April 20, 2016

I Am Suppose To Change The World

Have you ever wondered "How in the world did I end up here"?  You had so much more planned for your life but for whatever reason those plans did not come to fruition.  I think we all go through those times.  I had the opportunity to give a speech yesterday title "I Am Suppose To Change The World".  This is probably the most emotional and revealing speech I've ever done.  I hope you take a few minutes to check it out below.  

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